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Bow customs

Korean`s big bow

After finishing Cha-Lye, when it comes Korean`s new years, younger people bow to elder family, which is called "Se-Bae". Then, people have breakfast and visit neighbors to bow. If a person comes to your house to bow, then you are suppoed to serve liquor and food, but to the children instead of liquor you give them the New Year's gift of money(usaully called "Bow money") and rice cake or fruits.

big bow

Another meaning of the cha-lye is Ancestor-Memorial-Rites On New Year's Day, people hold a memorial service in the main floored room or big room, and it is called "Cha-Lye". Behind a sacrificial table, there is a folding screen set up and on the table all New Year foods should be set up. The way to set up foods depends on the region and family but mostly, fruits are on the front row(red one is on the east side and white one on the west). Vegetables should be on the second low, soup on third(fish-soup on east, meat-soup on west), fried foods on firth, and on the last row there should be rice.

These things are usually had on just new years. Big bow is, gathering your hands (for men left hand over) then, kneeling both of knees down to the floor slowly and then bending your back at the same time your head down to the floor with hands.

For women it is a little different, when women bow, they are going to kneel down just one leg and both of your hands on the ground, ultimately chin down.

However, in general, these things really take a lot of time, so, usually we are standing up and nice and easy bend back. Sometimes when we are really busy or rushing somewhere, we do just chin down or to someone who is just standoffish person, but for friends, we just shake hands in the air. And if you are older than someone who bowed to you, you don’t have to bow back to them. You can just shake hands in the air or just say “Hi”.

bowing in gerneral.

potty or party?

I`m 35 years old, and I`m an English teacher in America, but I`m Korean-American. I just got my American citizen a few months ago. Also, I`m as good at speaking English as any American.

That`s why I could get a job as an English teacher at school. I am teaching kids 5~7 years old.

Sometimes I love what they are giggling, sometimes I really don`t like to interrogate them about they`ve done because they are not good at listening. If I want them to listen well, I need to spell out very precisely and loudly. Also I need to ask them to speak very slowly, and if they are really fooling around, I have to make them pay attention very forceful way. It feels like to interrogate somebody.

One day, in the middle of class, one of my students came up to me and she asked me to go to the bathroom. “Can I go to potty?” my student said.

I was so pissed off that she asked, because I understood ’party’. “what???” and I stared at her. She got really scared, I said to her ‘no’. I think my voice tone was really angry, at that time.

She strode to back to her chair, and she started to sob.

“I`m sorry Briana can you ask me again??”. And she said ”Can I go to the bathroom?”

It was completely my fault, so I apologized gently about why I was angry. ”I`m so sorry Briana, you can go to bathroom”, and bygones be bygones”

After she went to the bathroom, she started to nod off. ‘Oh my god !’ I could`ve been mad, but it was so cute especially for little children. I need to have a spacious mind. If she was a grown woman, I couldn`t even think about that. Anyway I don’t have to get angry what they made a mistake.

how do I teach kids when I have my sons?

To teach something about something or to let them know what is right things or bad things are really difficult, also really important. so I`m going to introduce my situation, but i don`t know this is good thing or right thing.

In korea, in general, a lot of parents want thier kids to be respectful for everybody. so if their kids are rude somebody, parents get really mad also my mom and dad emphasized that a little force way everyday.

that`s why most of parents let them know how to bow to adults and elder. As a result, a lot of koreans are more kind and respectful than American young generation.

However we have to know, kids are really good at copying some body, especially their parents or from what kids have grown thier environment. As an example, if my parents were so rude, swearing a lot, then I might be alike them if I was grown man.

Therefore, parents attitude is really importnat. As I read today`s article at class time, I just thoght that what they are attitude.

Sometimes we can convince, scare or even hit them for right, when they are rude or wrong.

Also we can read some fables or show them directly what we have some good attitude.

Specifically atittude and mind set up of parents is really important to their children.

For this reason, we will try to show them positve pages, at least, we will have to try ourselves best in front of our children.

Im gonna have to bully you.

"Bully" sometimes really normal and anywhere you go, you can get bullied from other person, sometimes, you can bully somebody.

what does "bully" mean???As far as i know, bully means like teasing your friends, being a gansta and my dictionary says, a bully is someone who uses their strenght or power to heart or frighten other people.

I thought, everybody can have this situation. When I was a school student, I`ve seen a lot of bullying situation. I don`t know why my friend did that. Maybe I enjoyed that with my friends, especially for boy students is really harder than girl students.

one of my friend went to restroom and he sat on the stool. suddenly one of my other friend ran

in front of his stool, and he threw away a water bucket. Surely there was full of water and every body made big laughing and loud clapping.

now I can confess, that is really worng thingy. But why some students become a naughty boy?

some reason, usually kids have a lot of energy, so we should burn thier energy or make them exhusted, or parents didn`t tell them what they wrong.

That`s kind of funny thing, but when i was teenager, If some spoilt friends were very tired, they became really calm. I think, this is really good idea, if you met some spoilt kids like bullying a lot,

you should suggest them some sports activities or martial arts.